So what's wrong with what you've got?
Know yourself. Confront your own fears, shame and anxieties. Write everything down as you sort through your memories and feelings::
Build self-esteem. For some people, positive self-esteem comes naturally. Most of us need to work on it. Say to yourself: "I LIKE myself." Smile when you say it. Say it again! And again! Tell yourself hundreds of times each day, with feeling: I LIKE my self... I LIKE my self... I LIKE my self..."
Talk to others. That's what forums are for!